Xue Fei admitted that he refused to hold his old and dead attitude. "These people, even if I invite 2000 people to attend the wedding ceremony, will not think of them. They are not friends." But for a good friend's wedding, his attitude is very different, leave to go, "can not live up to the respect of friends."
Eleven get married, get too much money, eat too much money, and don't want to go to a wedding. In the TV play Snail House, Guo Haiping, a small clerk, thinks she can avoid paying her co-worker's wedding, but she didn't expect the boss to show his affection and deduct the money from her salary.
Golden Week wedding often requires two choices, and housewife Wang Li has the solution. If both are important, she relies on the principle of "who invites to whom's home first" which is the least offensive. In order to ensure that both sides are satisfied, if it is the same city, she will go to one sitting in the morning, then to another at noon to attend the banquet.
Of course, if you can convince the other party to change your date, you should be the top treatment. Peng Lei, who had not worked long, met his cousin and his best friend at their wedding on November 1. Two months earlier, he knew the date of his best friend's wedding. He immediately told his cousin that his cousin, considering that he was a friend's best man, had changed the day when he chose the date. Peng Lei stressed, "the situation is very special, we must remind ourselves earlier that there is a possibility of turnover."
Zhu Haiwen, the wedding manager, felt that many people would find a lot of excuses for not going to the wedding, but the more they did not intend to go, the more flawed they would be, and it would be difficult to have a perfect solution. "The more you want to tell the truth, the easier it is to have problems, so the simpler it is, the better."
In general, money is not always available to people, and money comes to people. Saving money is the most difficult thing to achieve. In reality, money is an important bargaining chip for "people do not arrive" and a guarantee of human nature. A closed group is not linked to members who are not sociable or sociable.
Sun Li, a former state-owned enterprise cadre, never attended other people's wedding ceremonies. Recently, her father was hospitalized and nobody went to the hospital to see her. Sun Li felt very sad. Changed holidays
Wei Wei originally envisaged a vacation, should be spent in the home hillside house, away from the crowd, with Grandma planted a piece of vegetable field, with Grandpa driving an electric car. In the past, she returned to her hometown on the 11th day. This year, even though the holidays were severely squeezed, she insisted on going back again.
There are too many people who change their holidays by wedding. Media man Xiao Xiaoxiao planned to travel to Nordic on October 1. When she learned that cousin No. 2 was married, her cousin hesitated and said, "I don't know if Uncle doesn't care if you don't come." She didn't want her relatives to complain and immediately compromise. The flight was delayed three thousand yuan a day - more than the red envelope for the bride.
Peng Lei, who has just joined the work force, plans to attend two weddings, but does not want to give up the opportunity to travel. The best way to do both is to take an extra day off and go straight to the tourist destination after attending the wedding on the 4th, just to change the destination from Hulun Bell to Chifeng silently.
However, some people are not moved. After learning that there are three different weddings during the holidays, Lin Yan still insists on herself. She should play and play. Her reason is that when she got married, she was considerate of her relatives and friends from other places, and she did not invite them, so she should be understood by empathy.
However, the influence of choosing a wedding is sometimes not present at the moment. Wang Li, a housewife, still regrets not attending the wedding of a senior high school friend. When I was lazy, I didn't feel relieved after receiving the invitation, nor did I give it in time. Later, when she got married, she realized that she wanted to invite the other person. Friends have children in the back, their own children were born, the human relationship is no longer possible to continue, the relationship is broken.
"Friends from two places apart, in fact, were married and funeral wedding gifts to participate in each other's lives, the ancients'with the members' is wise." She laments that she often returns to her hometown and has few friends. Unfortunately, it has been difficult to find a companion who can walk and travel together.
A gift can alienate two people and bring them closer. Retired government official Peng LAN recently experienced a tangled choice. The old colleagues in the same courtyard wanted to ask for their daughter-in-law. They lived not far from each other. From the window, she could see that the other's house had been pasted with happy words, and people came and went. She was embarrassed and unwilling to inquire because she had tied the knot with her old colleague four or five years ago when her brother hit her by car and didn't get to the hospital in time. After that, it is not natural for the two to meet.
The small house of the same house was not seen in the head, but the atmosphere in the early days of marriage was oppressing her. Finally, at noon when firecrackers rang on the wedding day, half an hour before the bride came in, she opened the door of her old colleague's house and handed over a red envelope, not much, 200 yuan. To attend the wedding, almost all colleagues were present, the circle is so big, Peng Lan was very happy, "almost let everyone see a joke."
Eleven get married, get too much money, eat too much money, and don't want to go to a wedding. The movie "Bridesmaid" tells the story of a friend getting married suddenly, friends getting invited, and then comedy.
The bigger change is the reversal of the attitude of the old colleague shortly after the wedding. On the way to meet again, the face is no longer ugly, far away on the warm greeting, "Where to ah," eat no ah, the two people's hot like back many years ago. Peng Lan believes that "gift money" means a kind of respect and recognition.Before "Golden Wedding Week", there are various online coping strategies: when the Wechat screen pops up "I'm married on the 11th, is it right?", you can pretend to be silly and reply "your mobile phone is in the water, just got back from the sale today". You can also downhill the donkey and take the opportunity to say, "I can't accept your secret love for too long, marriage"; of course. You can also ask rhetorical questions, "have you heard of what Amway is?" The real situation is more complex, and the core of all the problems to be solved is to be both time-saving and money-saving, happy and meaningful.
Sweetie, now, regrets that he should not be too slippery. It was a circle of friends in early September, sunning wedding photos and invitations, and she naively thought it was the same color as the usual self-timers. Immediately, a private letter was sent, and with the beginning of "pro", I asked her earnestly, "is eleven free?" The other side is a girl who is likely to be promoted to a friend, but has never had much contact. The question triggered sweet anxiety, not only because she didn't know how to handle her enthusiasm, but also because it was the fifth wedding invitation she received during the "Eleventh Golden Week".
Many people do not understand what the intention of the invitation is in the circle of friends. Zhu Haiwen, a 10-year master of ceremonies, explored the thoughts behind the new couple, basking in happiness and checking potential guests through feedback. "Oh, he's complimented. He hasn't contacted for a long time. Can you invite him?" It's like sweet.
Sweet will face the toughest problem of the seven-day vacation. Among the four other invitations she receives, two are girlfriends, another nodding acquaintance she interned with six years ago, and an 18-year-old primary school classmate. Her mood is complex: embarrassment, embarrassment and a hint of indignation.
"11 Golden Week" is too dense wedding easy to magnify all kinds of contradictions, in their own happy and maintain interpersonal relations, between the face and the inside, how to play a game, a degree of progress and retreat, has become a test of popular proposition, but also test various relationships. Wedding anxiety is like sweetie. There are many weddings on the 27 year old Wei Wei national day. Eleven years ago, she received five invitations, three of which had to be there, two of which were bridesmaids, scattered in Nanjing, Shanghai and Xuzhou.
She sketched out a bill that would cost 5,000 yuan for transportation, including a 1,600-yuan first-class seat for the train, which she bought painfully because she didn't get the ticket; the red envelope could not be too low, and was expected to be around 2,000 yuan. In this way, her total cost is nearly 20 thousand. No one has reimbursed them. Recently, they also received notice from their girlfriends that "bridesmaid dresses should be bought by themselves."
There was a statistic that the average age of Chinese people to marry was 24-30 years old. This age group also became the main group to attend the wedding. Zhu Haiwen, wedding director, said that the reason why the National Day wedding piled up, because seven days of vacation has a head and tail, easy for guests to turn around, but also suitable for home banquet. Moreover, there is national day's joyous atmosphere for the wedding ceremony, which satisfies people's demand for celebrating and auspicious auspicious days.
In the face of wedding invitation, men are more likely to express their anxieties directly. Before the Eleventh Day, Wang Xuefei, 28, was invited to the wedding. The bridegroom was a friend and groomsman. The list of invitations included a chemistry teacher who had made up several classes in high school and a former colleague who worked with McDonald's ten years ago. When the groom decided to send an invitation to another friend who had been a groomsman together and asked for contact information, Wang Xuefei immediately called their only mutual friend. "Who, who, will you be a man?"
There is room for manoeuvre if multiple wedding dates can be separated, but anxiety really starts when two invitations are handed in at the same time during the golden week of crash-prone weddings.
So sweet second wedding invitations. A few weeks ago, my friend WeChat asked sweet, "can you number 2 be my Bridesmaid?" In fact, she had already promised another girl to be a bridesmaid. The maid of honor is the highest affirmation in women's friendship. Sweet and truthful reply, afraid of her heartbreak, hurriedly enthusiastic commitment can help to decorate the new house, fold invitation. Friends quickly responded, "those are not important."
There was silence in the screen. For a long time, the other side jumped out and said, "then I want to change." Sweet stared at the word "change" and dared not reply to one more, she was afraid that the result was "pull black". The reality is even more ironic, when she loses several pounds to become another maid of honor, she is told that the bridesmaid and groomsman are not invited to the wedding. Eleven get married, get too much money, eat too much money, and don't want to go to a wedding. In Friends, Rachel's invitation to a bridesmaid as a bridesmaid by her ex-boyfriend is the first step in a relationship test, and money is the next step.
Wei Wei, who works for a big Internet company in a first-tier city, is not short of money, but she makes her girlfriend mistake herself for paying more. "To send a PRADA bag." When she saw her girlfriend's whimpering requests on the tweet, her mood bottomed out. "If I had no money and no toll, would they still let me be a bridesmaid?" As the big wave wedding approached, Wei Wei was reluctant to determine the exact number of red envelopes. The whole person felt anxious. "That's hard, like two PPTs in a minute." She had never been so upset that she thought it was calculating the emotion at the marked price.
Compared with the sensitivity of young people, Sun Li, a state-owned enterprise cadre, is more calm about his attitude towards gift. She's been working in the human resources department for decades, and every year she has a few college students in her hands. Soon afterwards